Archive for August, 2010

Not My Cup of Tea…

Posted: August 16, 2010 in Uncategorized

I got to say, in serious conversations, there are some expressions that really annoy me. I’ve been hearing some of these expressions a lot lately, and I’m starting to feel a little uncomfortable trying to buy the sincerity of the intended message behind these expressions.

I’ve observed that when giving comments and explanations on matters, people would try to sound frank and honest, but at the same time, they also try to come clean by using expressions like:

…No offense meant but…or …Not to be mean but…

I believe that these expressions are meant to wash one’s hands when giving criticisms. If a person wants to give his honest opinion and believes that it’s an opinion worth expressing, then I don’t get why one should worry about it sounding offensive or mean. Negating the idea that it’s offensive and mean is not necessary if the opinion comes from an objective reasoning. No offense meant but I don’t think that a criticism preceded by such expressions earns any merit.

…to be honest with you…

To be honest, I don’t think that this line is really necessary. I just think that this statement is a redundancy in itself. Ideally, we want people to really be honest with us, no matter how harsh their opinions are…right? Maybe this is to emphasize the speaker’s honesty and frankness, which are remarkable qualities by the way. But sometimes, exposing the cake too much spoils the fun. I don’t think that saying this line makes a statement more honest (to be honest).

…I’m sorry..(5x)

Being apologetic for your shortcomings is remarkable. It shows humility. However, saying sorry more than twice is just irritating. Okay you said sorry and you explained and I said it’s okay and you still keep on saying sorry. It’s a waste of time. I’m sorry if this post pushes some buttons.. I really am…

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